“Letters to Young Black Men” by Daniel Whyte is a good book to discuss with young men and his book for women “Letters to Young Black Women” is even a better book which I will gladly review in detail as the next book. Letters to Young Black Men is 25 letters broken up into 3 sections spiritual guidance, educational guidance, and dealing with real life scenarios
Below is a short lists of sentences that I highlighted from the book. If you find some of these highlights important to you, please buy the book and share this book with a young man or parent of a male child you know.
Highlights from letter 12 “The Marks of a Truly Educated Man”
- A mark of an educated man is that he is humble enough to admit his ignorance.
- a truly educated man continues his education long after his years in high school and college.
- Another mark of a truly educated man is that he is authentic. He is an original. He is for real. He is himself. He knows he does not have to be like anyone else. He is therefore original in his thinking, his speaking, and his writing.
- “He is comfortable in his own skin.”
- an educated man has the ability to express himself clearly through his speech and through his writing.
- an educated man is a disciplined man. A disciplined man is willing and able to “do the worst first.” He is willing and ready to tackle the difficult jobs and tasks even when he does not feel like doing them.
- he finds favor in the sight of God and man.
- he understands etiquette and protocol.
- he knows how to look smart as well.
- He knows what to say in different settings. He knows how to act at a backyard barbecue as well as at a stately dinner. He dresses and acts appropriately on any given occasion.
- “It is part of the function of education to help us escape – not from our own time, for we are bound by that – but from the intellectual and emotional limitations of our own time.” —T. S. Eliot
- “He who opens a school door, closes a prison.” —Victor Hugo
- “Human history becomes more and more a race between education and catastrophe.” —H. G. Wells
WITH ALL THY GETTING, GET WISDOM AND UNDERSTANDING Letter Thirteen
- “He that walketh with wise men shall be wise, but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.” —Proverbs 13: 20
- “The world belongs to the man who is wise enough to change his mind in the presence of facts.” —Roy L. Smith
PLEASE LEARN “YOURSELF” A LITTLE ETIQUETTE Letter Fourteen
- “Thinking your way through your problem is better than wishing your way through.” —Coleman Young
YOU ARE NOT INFERIOR! Letter Fifteen
- “The most important thing you have to fight is what you think about yourself.”
TAKE THE ROAD LESS TRAVELED Letter Sixteen
- “The Bible will keep you away from sin, or sin will keep you away from the Bible.”
- “The collapse of character begins with compromise.” —Frederick Douglass
TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY Letter Seventeen
- Take responsibility for all that you do, all that you say and all that you are, and never blame anyone else for your situation.
TALK AND LISTEN TO EVERY OLDER BLACK MAN PAST FIFTY THAT YOU POSSIBLY CAN Letter Eighteen (the title of this chapter speaks for itself)
THINGS I WISH SOMEONE HAD TOLD ME WHEN I WAS TWELVE Letter Twenty-One
- I wish someone had told me about the importance of reading, studying and applying the Bible to my life. Read, study and apply the Bible to your life, and be the success that God wants you to be.
- I wish someone had forcibly told me to avoid having sex until after I was married. And reasons why.
- I wish that someone had taught me to have a better work ethic. There is nothing wrong with hard work.
- I wish that someone had told me, in a forcible manner, that junior high school and high school were not times in which to play, but to gain knowledge
WOMEN FOLK! Letter Twenty-three
- A good woman can help you become a great success in life; a bad woman can not only make your life miserable, but she can ruin your life as well. It is as simple as that.
- “A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband” —Proverbs 12: 4
- “For a whore is a deep ditch; and a strange woman is a narrow pit.” —Proverbs 23: 27
- Too many young and old men today love sex more than they love God.
- Everything that glitters ain’t gold. You had better learn and learn quickly to get past the exterior and find out about the interior… But what you want, son, and what you had better get in a woman is a woman of virtue, integrity, trustworthiness and honor, if you want to have peace of mind in this life.
THINK FOR YOURSELF! Letter Twenty-four
- Think for yourself! Be a leader instead of a follower. We have enough followers. These people let others think for them, speak for them and even do for them… Think for yourself. Be the leader that God wants you to be.
Book recommendations from the Author Daniel Whyte (These Books Are Not Listed In Any Certain Order)
- 1. No More Excuses: Be The Man God Made You To Be, by Dr. Tony Evans
- 3. So You Call Yourself A Man?, by Bishop T. D. Jakes
- 9. It Only Takes Everything You’ve Got, by Julio Melara
- 13. Mis-Education of the Negro, by Carter G. Woodson
- 19. The Universe Next Door, by James W. Sire
- 20. Prayer And Praying Men, by E. M. Bounds
- 24. Unstoppable, by Cynthia Kersey
- 27. Maximized Manhood, by Edwin Louis Cole 28. Real Man, by Edwin Louis Cole 29. Strong Men In Tough Times, by Edwin Louis Cole
- 33. Pay Yourself First, by Jesse B. Brown
- 37. Pinckert’s Practical Grammar, by Robert C. Pinckert
- 38. Brother’s Keeper: Words of Inspiration for African-American Men, by Rod Terry
- 47. Rich Dad, Poor Dad, by Robert T. Kiyosaki and Sharon L. Lechter
- 52. The Purpose Driven Life, by Rick Warren